I hate butane lighters!!

Well, actually I love using them, saves my thumb from chaffing and calluses, since I have to click them instead of rubbing on the wheel. But I will be damned if I ever found a reliable butane lighter that could be refilled and re-used.

I have purchased expensive Xikar lighters, Ronsons, the common cheap ones, but some how they all get messed up.

I blow air on the lighting area to clear it up, used Xikar, ronson or zippo butane fuel. I set the flame to the lowest, then empty the gas tank with a pin, then carefully fill the lighter with the butane cylinder, but ... nada, zilch, zip. Some how the gas tank gets filled with air and not butane.

What am I doing wrong?

Why is this so freaking annoying?!!??