Receiving Cigars Etiquette

Recently I sent a cigar to a member here at CS who had expressed he has never tried a particular cigar so I offered him one for free, nothing in return, so that he may try it. No big deal, glad to help out.

I waited sometime after sending the cigar waiting for at least a "hey, I got it, thanks." But, never heard anyting. Even sent out a few emails asking if he received the package. Never heard anything back.

I've given up on at least getting a thank you and personally wouldn't think too much of it now after my kindness was ignored. All in all, I feel like never sending out anymore cigars to anyone after this bad experience.

I just wanted to say to members who do receive cigars from other members, at least show the sender courtesy by saying thank you. It would be the least you can do.

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Originally Posted by cls515

Recently I sent a cigar to a member here at CS who had expressed he has never tried a particular cigar so I offered him one for free, nothing in return, so that he may try it. No big deal, glad to help out.

I waited sometime after sending the cigar waiting for at least a "hey, I got it, thanks." But, never heard anything. Even sent out a few emails asking if he received the package. Never heard anything back.

I've given up on at least getting a thank you and personally wouldn't think too much of it now after my kindness was ignored. All in all, I feel like never sending out anymore cigars to anyone after this bad experience.

I just wanted to say to members who do receive cigars from other members, at least show the sender courtesy by saying thank you. It would be the least you can do.

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You're right. I can understand sometimes "life" gets in the way and you don't have time to post a long thank you, but a quick note, or post would be appropriate.

PS. I know it wasn't me, but thanks for being a generous BOTL.

A simple thank you is expected for a gift. It ain't that hard.

if you're sure that it WAS delivered....maybe an outing is in order...but only if you're positive about delivery....USPS has been known to screw up...

It doesn't take much to type a simple thank you PM or a thread. That's the least someone could do if they were gifted something. It's especially wrong if you sent a follow up email/pm and still no acknowledgement or thanks. If you're sure it was delivered, I'm with BPP on this one. This is a very generous community and moochers should be shown the door.

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Originally Posted by bigpoppapuff

if you're sure that it WAS delivered....maybe an outing is in order...but only if you're positive about delivery....USPS has been known to screw up...

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I'm not sure it was delivered or not. I asked it it was. You'd think you'd hear back if it was or wasn't.

Like I said I'm not really looking for anything for myself or out to expose someone, just want to set some guidelines for stuff like this in the future. Overall I think it was a pretty sorry gesture on his part.

put it out in the open and see what happens...if you sent emails asking if a gift was delivered and still get no response....well,that's just not right.....

If I send something out I would be offended if I did not get an email stating they rcvd package. A thank you is even better.

When I rcv a package I make it a point to send a message ASAP acknowldging rcpt of package and a big thank you. Someone sent me sticks from THEIR stash and paid shipping so that I may enjoy something I did not have before.

I would be upset. Even an email saying..I never got it. I would hope the person would be dead or moved to ethiopia unexpectedly.

Lord knows I hope you're not talking about me......The smoke you sent me still sits comfortably in my humidor waiting to be smoked. :smiley20:

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Originally Posted by dHUTCH

Lord knows I hope you're not talking about me......The smoke you sent me still sits comfortably in my humidor waiting to be smoked. :smiley20:

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ha, ya i had to pm him and make sure it wasn't me. whew :smiley37:

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Originally Posted by chefchris

ha, ya i had to pm him and make sure it wasn't me. whew :smiley37:

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A rank noob might not notice their IM box has mail? It could happen.
I once went a few days before I noticed I had a message.
I'd find it hard to believe a BOTL would not respond to a gift.

The recipient confirmed and knew it was coming right?

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Originally Posted by guado

The recipient confirmed and knew it was coming right?

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I would have dropped a thank you especially if I didn't know it was coming. I'd be more incline to be late on saying thank you on something I new was coming if I was busy. However, I would never ignore an email, PM's and posts, I might not check for awhile, but, an email is an every day thing.

I say OUT HIM..... just a mention of his name in a thread

I agree, expose the person. You are a very generous BOTL to send the gift....failure to acknowledge it, AND post a public thank-you.....is not an oversight.

Is the person you did this for still active on the board?

If you haven't check their profile and see the last time they logged in.

You can't go wrong outing the guy. If there was some legitimate reason for his slackass remissness, you can always make it up with a couple more sticks. There is some obligation to the community to shine the light on this kind of shit. Hell, if he has a reason for not acknowledging the gift (hospitalized, on vacation on the Amazon w/o 'puter, etc.), I'll send make up sticks.

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Originally Posted by ashauler

I agree, expose the person. You are a very generous BOTL to send the gift....failure to acknowledge it, AND post a public thank-you.....is not an oversight.

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I agree that an acknowledgement of thanks is in order. I don't necessarily agree that it must be public...the cigar was gifted without board knowledge, the thanks doesn't have to be known by the board either.

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Originally Posted by heftysmokes

I agree that an acknowledgement of thanks is in order. I don't necessarily agree that it must be public...the cigar was gifted without board knowledge, the thanks doesn't have to be known by the board either.

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True. A behind-the-scenes deal is all good, unless somebody fucks up, and is unwilling to clean up the mess. Then it becomes a community issue. IMO, even if the guy were to pm a late thankyou, then it's over. No need to spread it out then.

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Originally Posted by basil

True. A behind-the-scenes deal is all good, unless somebody fucks up, and is unwilling to clean up the mess. Then it becomes a community issue. IMO, even if the guy were to pm a late thankyou, then it's over. No need to spread it out then.

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Exactly.

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Originally Posted by heftysmokes

I agree that an acknowledgement of thanks is in order. I don't necessarily agree that it must be public...the cigar was gifted without board knowledge, the thanks doesn't have to be known by the board either.

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Point well taken, as well as Basil's follow up.

We've resolved our differences! Like stated.....miscommunication. :)

I think the real problem was that you never said "THANK YOU"

Ah communication...


Got to love it.

I'm pretty sure I did somewhere along the way. In some shape or form I always say "thank you" to everyone who sends me cigars. Whether it's "I appreciate it" "thanks" "man thanks for the package," I say it someway. If I didn't say it in this time it would have been a complete accident. So if I did, thanks very much for the cigar. When I smoke the damn thing...I'll let you know if I enjoyed it or not. :smiley20:

hmm. Goes to show (once again) there are always (at least) two sides to every story. I received a pm, indirectly, about cls' concerns, and encouraged him to hit you with another pm (I guess the first one you quoted here). In my pm back to him, I stated that you may've thought to pm him a "thank you", unintentionally forgotten, and then remembered it as having done so.

Also, sounds like he might've had a trade in mind but communicated to you that it was a gift. Unclear communication. If this is the case cls, then ask for a trade when that's what you want. Give the other party the chance to say yes.

At any rate, this is one damn cigar, over which there was most likely, as you said hutch, a miscue. No big damn deal.

I, as do the rest of the board, appreciate your work on the SS. And cls, you seem like a decent guy. In a "let's put this behind us" poll, I'd vote hell yes.

Shit, I want to know what kinda cigar it is that created this whole mess......

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Originally Posted by dHUTCH

"Burn it already!"

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You're right. You did write me a PM saying you had it in your possession after I asked if you received it. I remember now. My mistake. Out of my sincerity, I do not remember a thank you and I came away from that gift with a bad taste. In honesty I did feel disrespected.

I did not ask for anything in return but hinted a return gesture would be nice. I stated clearly I was willing to give you a nice cigar, and something in return would be nice. A box trade was not part of the condition. But, I was willing to if you were also.

BK, the cigar was one of my favorites.

In all fairness it should be put behind and nothing like this should happen here on these boards. Hutch :smiley20: thanks for coming and getting things out in the open.

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Originally Posted by cls515

You're right. You did write me a PM saying you had it in your possession after I asked if you received it. I remember now. My mistake. Out of my sincerity, I do not remember a thank you and I came away from that gift with a bad taste. In honesty I did feel disrespected.

I did not ask for anything in return but hinted a return gesture would be nice. I stated clearly I was willing to give you a nice cigar, and something in return would be nice. A box trade was not part of the condition. But, I was willing to if you were also.

BK, the cigar was one of my favorites.

In all fairness it should be put behind and nothing like this should happen here on these boards. Hutch :smiley20: thanks for coming and getting things out in the open.

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No problem bro. I removed the post I put above as to not start any more drama. Drop me a PM with your address, as I do not have it anymore, and you may receive a package sometime out of the blue like a few other members. :smiley37:

You guys are bringing a tear to my eye...

If I have never said Thank You..........THANK YOU :smiley31: to anyone who has traded, sent, or I've bought cigars from. While I'm at it thanks for reducing the bell curve on this thing called cigar smoking. And yet again, while I'm at it Happy Holidays BOTL's/SOTL's.:smiley41: