Originally Posted by
cinda
When she out shopping or out doing work on her free time for the house, you better be stepping it up not relaxing drinking beer and smoking cigars! I work 40 hours a week. Hubby's retired. On sat if I go grocery shopping and I come home to him watching the baseball game and he has not empty the garbage or cleaned the old food out of the frig. I am a bitch. "Dam on my free time which is not much I buying groceries and your sitting around having fun?" I could do a 40 min rant on what is wrong with the house and him if he seems like he's having fun and I am not. Most times he's like I did know you were shopping etc etc. I just do not want to feel like I have another 40 hour a week job at home. If I was you I take on some responsibilities out side the house doing errands or social things that need to be done and smoke while your out helping her. It may help to have smoking the cigar paired with helping out.
I understand your point, but you missed some of the details. We do most social things together. She would prefer not to be within 100 feet of me while smoking a cigar. Smoking in the house is a big no-no. Always has been for both of us. Both of us work full-time. My job is a bit more demanding, but her job pays more. She recently landed a VERY good job and I'm very proud of her.
Push mowing and trimming a 13000 foot property is not a good time by anyone's standards, and it needs it twice a week. The roses and weeping cherry tree need spraying twice a week. The bushes need trimming and beds need weeding once a week. The lawn and beds need edging and fertilizing once or twice a month (We just hired Trugreen to fertilize for us). All in all, it's about six hours of hard work a week just to maintain. When I'm done after about two hours of sweaty manual labor and she's still out shopping and/or visiting with mom, I will have cold drinks and smoke a cigar. I will not feel one bit bad about it either.
I help around the house as well. I do all the heavy lifting and ocaasional heavy jobs like carpet cleaning. I empty the dishwasher, take out trash, pick up the living room where the kid daily spreads toys around like confetti. I bathe him and get him ready for bed every night. I take him to swim classes half the time. We also have cleaning girls hired to do the heavy and detailed house work every two weeks. She takes care of more housework than me (laundry is a big one), but the summer yardwork more than balances things out IMO. I've more than once offerred to trade responsibilities if she felt things were unfair. She did the push mowing all of one time. It did wonders for her perspective. It doesn't take as long as laundry, but it's much much harder work.
I aint perfect, but I don't want you thinking I'm a lazy slob either.
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