Primarily, the smell is her complaint, and she doesn't find it attractive at all. I started with cigars while she was still smoking cigarrettes. I was a very light smoker and found cigs completely boring. I found the occasional cigar to be much more to my liking. She has since quit smoking, and tolerance has gone downhill since.
We are very busy and lacking intimacy lately, but that's more her fault than mine. She makes 90% of the social and activities schedule. She also wants intimacy to be under somewhat perfect conditions, and that just doesn't happen in real life with a preschooler. That's probably at the root of the problem I'm guessing. If that's where she wants a change, I'm certainly willing to accomodate, but she's going to have to make herself more available. I think knowing that causes her stress as well.
It's not like I use smoking to avoid her. I only smoke at times that don't interfere with any of our time together. For instance, I'll light up and have a beer while she's shopping and I'm staying home doing yard work after I'm done.
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