Quote Originally Posted by daredog4 View Post
I think that song is hilarious and does fit me a little. I was trying to show you guys that i can take the criticism and even make fun of myself a little and i thought you guys might find it funny too.

Maybe i am an asshole in some ways, but you can really be a tough crowd. I am who i am and i can't change that. A little friendly criticism is not a bad thing but i think i've taken enough. I think it speaks a lot to someones character when all they do is put people down. I have really tried to get along, and to not just take from the forum but give info and reviews where i can.

Maybe some of you are right when you say this isn't the forum for me. It seems very impersonal and dry....i think would be the term. If i have learned one thing about cigars its that they are more than just rich, or creamy, or spicy.......they can cause us to feel emotions, and I have learned that when you are feeling a certain way then certain cigars compliment that. So its my wish that there could be a forum where that is not left out of the equation. Where people were free to express themselves and not be ridiculed for it.

So with all of that said, feel free to kick me off of here if you really feel that way. To those i have offended im sorry. No matter what happens im still going to enjoy cigars and hopefully will be able to help out some new guys when they discover that they love cigars too. Maybe it will be on this forum, mabye not.
This reply doesn't in the least bit surprise me. I think I'm getting to know you, dreadog - and from what I'm seeing - I truly think you have no capacity to change. Too bad - your self serving attitude will do fine if you don't wish to venture out beyond your four walls.

Contribution at any forum is not writing a bunch of reviews and expressing your ideas. Much like the "richness" of the experiences of smoking a cigar - the richness of any community is in the subtleties of its membership - and (more important) what the individual members truly contributes to the everyone else in community.

You complain about the PIF - saying you think it should be different. While the 100 post rule is to prevent some selfish pig coming into this community and cleaning up, it also is a means of causing a new member to reflect on what it means to contribute, and the TRUE meaning of the concept of "paying it forward". Quite frankly - I know you have an incredible selection of cigars, but I have no interest in anything you have in your collection. I can buy any of those cigars without any difficulty - why would I want yours? So ask yourself - why do a trade? Is it about you? ...or is it about what you give to someone else? That truly defines what you contribute to this community.

If you continue to view the members of this community as a bunch of pricks - this community will be full of pricks. If you view this community for the diversity of opinions, the "richness" of the many subtle, often unnoticed contributions - you will be much more satisfied.

But - I'm becoming more and more convinced as time goes on - this place is not for you.. You might want to consider the benefits of joining a community like puff.com. I think that place is much more your speed. Maybe someday you will understand. I hope, for your sake - you will miss much if you don't understand.