A Women Scorned...

[mrtr33]

I really feel bad for you, man. From what I've read, you haven't missed much in that Kinky smoke.

Some pretty fucked up things happen in Florida.....

As I entered the house I found that the house that I rented with her for the past 3 years was torn to shreds. There was a kitchen knife sticking out of my mattress, my sheets were shredded, there was a makeup case impaled in my TV (a new TV at that). After calling the police and discussing with them the situation and potential legalities associated with the damage I found out that because we shared a joint home and were together for over 5 years, I couldn’t bring her up on any charges.

.....but I find this hard to believe. She obviously knew you were breaking up, and intentionally smashed up all of your stuff. I would think, particularly, that the knife in the bed was over the line. I would interpret that as a threat - it wasn't like she "accidentally" tipped the TV over, or left the house messy before she left the rental, making you lose out on your deposit. These were intentional acts. Maybe you could sue her? Small claims court might help.

That fucking SUCKS though, man. I think I'm going to pick up some flowers on the way home tonight........

[TachyCoventry]

I can bring her up in civil court for all the damages but as far as the threat goes the police can't do anything. At this point though, I feel like I should just walk away with my tail between my legs and say fuck it. What's the point of continuing to deal with her? The way it is right now is that I have no idea where she even is and that's fine with me.

I did bring some smokes with me but smoked them all before I got home. Another shitty part, she's a server/bartender at the local cigar lounge. That means that I can't even go in there and get another cigar.

I don't want this to sound like I just rolled over and took it though. I called up the lounge that she works at and informed them of what she did. I've known the owner for a couple of years. By this weekend she will no longer be employed by that particular establishment AND he's keeping an eye out incase she tries to sell my humidor.

[ggiese]

I can bring her up in civil court for all the damages but as far as the threat goes the police can't do anything. At this point though, I feel like I should just walk away with my tail between my legs and say fuck it. What's the point of continuing to deal with her? The way it is right now is that I have no idea where she even is and that's fine with me.

I did bring some smokes with me but smoked them all before I got home. Another shitty part, she's a server/bartender at the local cigar lounge. That means that I can't even go in there and get another cigar.

I don't want this to sound like I just rolled over and took it though. I called up the lounge that she works at and informed them of what she did. I've known the owner for a couple of years. By this weekend she will no longer be employed by that particular establishment AND he's keeping an eye out incase she tries to sell my humidor.

Some things to consider...

Sounds like you should convert that police report into an Order of Protection. She sounds well outside the bounds of reasonable, and it sounds as though she's likely not done.

You can and should pursue damages in the civil court - where the level of proof is far less than in criminal court. And once a judgement has been entered for the damages - you have a myriad of legal options that are far more painful for her than the pain you felt you coming home to the mess.

I'm just sayin'...

[TachyCoventry]

To all the people who offered cigars (and more) I want to take a minute to thank you all. This community is an amazing place and the people are more than generous. Once I get my stash back up to capacity I'll be getting the nukes ready to bomb away!

Also for all the advice people have given me, thank you. This situation is far from over but right now I'm just thankful that I am in my own apartment away from her. I am trying to start over with my personal life which is difficult because I've never had to do that before. The sitauation has caused me to lose several friends that her and I made together but that is the least of my concerns. I now have the ability to be happy again after being unhappy with her for so long.

Again thank you to all of you who have offered advice and cigars to get me through these times. It is much appreciated. I already ordered a couple of 5 packs to start of the humidor the right way once I get it. Retribution to those who are sending me things is coming!!!

[ndv21]

To all the people who offered cigars (and more) I want to take a minute to thank you all. This community is an amazing place and the people are more than generous. Once I get my stash back up to capacity I'll be getting the nukes ready to bomb away!

Also for all the advice people have given me, thank you. This situation is far from over but right now I'm just thankful that I am in my own apartment away from her. I am trying to start over with my personal life which is difficult because I've never had to do that before. The sitauation has caused me to lose several friends that her and I made together but that is the least of my concerns. I now have the ability to be happy again after being unhappy with her for so long.

Again thank you to all of you who have offered advice and cigars to get me through these times. It is much appreciated. I already ordered a couple of 5 packs to start of the humidor the right way once I get it. Retribution to those who are sending me things is coming!!!

If you lose 'em, they weren't your friends to begin with. Fuck 'em, you're better off without 'em

[mail man]

If you lose 'em, they weren't your friends to begin with. Fuck 'em, you're better off without 'em

What he said, not really friends then.

[Roger]

Daigz, sorry that you had such a terrible experience! It never ceases to amaze me what people are capable of. Sorry that you had to experience that "bitch out of hell" but I hope also that you learned something from it.... I think you did. I pray that the next relationship you find yourself in will be much more rewarding and peaceful. Roger.

[Mizicke5273]

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[cinda]

In the state I live in she would have been arrested. They would of had to write a warrant and that is a little effort but it would have been done. The fact she stuck the knife in the bed is a huge red flag for potential violence. The fact you called her job and got her fired?......follow GG advice and know a piece of paper doesn't stop a bullet. Safety plan for your self.

[Lopaka]

Holy damn, that sucks! Sorry to hear what happened.

I would just say, enjoy rebuilding the stash!

Lopaka

[buzz]

Dude that is a major bummer, just try to be thankful that it was only "stuff", and hopefully none of that stuff had major emotional ties for you (ie your grandfather's pocket watch or something). Also, be glad that she didn't attempt to hurt you, because 1. a knife in the shoulder would probably hurt pretty bad and 2. even if you are broken up and you are angry at her, I am sure you wouldn't want to see her brought up on assault charges.

Look at the bright side bro, I bet that TV was in need of an upgrade anyway... and trust me, if she flushes that Kinky down the toilet it would be a suitable end to it's existence. The Air Bender, however - you will want to get yourself one of those bad boys to try out - even if it is not for the review.

-Buzz

[Paddy]

Sorry to hear of your troubles.
Women can be a funny breed.
In the future don't do a fucking thing with a woman until your married.
No leases, no co-signs, no loans, no fucking nothing.
You will live to regret it.

[cigarsarge]

The only possible recourse is civil court. If you live with someone what is yours is theirs and what theirs is yours...Just like a marriage.

[Devil Doc]

It's never prudent to give advice in these kinds of situations, but I'll tell you this, behavior like you've described doesn't come out of nowhere. Next time, do a little research before you decide to shack up with someone.

Doc.