Tommy, what you don't get is that every argument you think you win, you lose standing in this community that's been around a lot longer than you have. It's up to you to decide what you want to contribute here. If you really knew what this place was all about, you'd know how to respond. Clearly you don't, yet.
This board is different than any other that I've seen because it actually holds the person to a higher regard than the topic. Sure, we're here to talk about a common passion, but we're primarily here to hang out in this community of fellow cigar (and pipe) lovers.
You've been around too short of a time to truly get the above. I've been here for a year and half, and while I think I understand it on a conceptual level, I know I'm not close to fully realizing it in action. That said, it's a slow (because deliberate) process that takes more than a year and half, let alone three weeks.
So from someone that has stuck his own foot in his mouth here and got what I deserved (and recovered): Sit down, shut up, and stick around.
Last edited by JiveTurkey; 12-21-2011 at 01:01 PM. Reason: added a couple words and fixed typo
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Geesh, you don't do well with direct questions do you? Instead of, again, referring to my post as defensive, please, point out how you are classifying it as defensive. I classify it as a pointed statement, direct and to the point, accompanied by a couple of questions.
I already went back in this thread, and again, asked you a direct and pointed question. You, sadly, continue to disappoint and refuse to answer.
Unfortunately for you, my comprehension is more complete and much quicker than yours is proving to be.
Jive Turkey, I appreciate your thoughts, but I respectfully disagree. If it takes a year and a half for people not to take your words out of context and then continue to argue with you about it even though they're wrong, then they aren't putting the person above the topic, they're elevating themselves. And, again, I never said there was anything wrong with that. Forgive me for seeing through the pretense, but it takes a year and a half to indoctrinate the new people, not to see what is actually going on here. I have no doubt that the members here care dearly about each other and have turned this into a brotherhood rather than a forum for those who have been here long enough to "get it." And that's fine. But there is clearly a fear of new people here that is driving this need to put them in their place. So was their someone who seemingly took over the forum with a dominating personality that makes you worried about it happening again? Just a guess, but this wouldn't be the first place I've seen that happen. And again, I don't put a negative connotation on any of this. I just believe in being honest about what's really going on. Because if the members here were really secure, they wouldn't need to get people to do things the "right way," because they would realize the forum is going to be what it's going to be. And maybe there would still be some hazing, which is what I suggested at the start, but it would be in good fun rather than out of the insecurity of the members. And you're going to try to say that I'm insecure and that I'm defensive and that I don't "get it," but we're grown men, and can't we be honest with each other? Even if the actions don't change — and I never said that I wanted to change anything — I think you would have a lot more fun if you went about this with honesty about your motives here.
And again, you choose to ignore questions put directly to you, and instead opt to promote your view of the nature of this forum. No one here has taken your words out of context.
What has happened here is very simple:
You were asked a direct, simple question.
You chose to answer it with a direct and personal attack.
Then you compounded your initial error by expanding your erroneous conclusions with this, expanding your attack to the general membership of the board:
"But maybe it's not that you didn't understand the thread. Maybe it's just my turn for the hazing that everyone seems to get. If that's the case, you'll find it hard to harass me. I roll with it pretty well. But please, keep trying."
Now you are continuing your attacks, concealed as righteous indignation, and touting yourself as the light-bearer for mistreated newblets.
The absurdity of your position is obvious to most, will soon dawn on others, but, sadly, I think it will be lost on you.
Saying you're not defensive does not mean you aren't defensive. I point to your entire post, not just one part of it, because someone whose comprehension is complete and quick can determine truth from the whole, not by cherrypicking poorly worded phrases out of the middle of a train of thought. Unfortunately for you, I see through you, and still I pass no judgment, but you choose to feel attacked, and that reflects on your own state of mind. No, I don't do well with direct questions that are designed to trip up anyone who tries to answer them. That's why I ignore them. Even if I tried, you're attitude has and, experience would suggest, would continue to respond in the fashion of a guilty child crying, "But mom, I didn't do anything wrong!"
If there really was a fear of new people here, as you claim there to be, then how do you explain the fact that this board has more than one member? If we are afraid of new people, then how do you explain the presence of respected members here, in this very thread, from every year from 2005 to the present? Your argument simply holds no water. If you piss people off here, it is your own fault. Stop making excuses for yourself. Insecure men are those who blame others for their own shortcomings.
No, I beg to differ. You ignore them because you cannot maintain your air of superiority if you answer them honestly. Simple as that. I did not speak from a defensive position, but rather a position of knowledge. Knowledge gained by years of association with the members of this forum, and years of seeing pompous, egotistical, people such as yourself drop in.
You are a hypocrite, that is plainly evident by your continued assignment of motivation to the actions of others, while steadfastly objecting that the same was done to you. Was the Dr. Phil seminar you attended held at a Holiday Inn Express? Geesh.
The box split is done and I doubted I would sell the humidor on there anyways.
I do rather enjoy the few times I have had the opportunity to run into one of you fine fellows over there though.
It brings back one of my favorite lines from Reservoir Dogs.
"You gonna bark all day, little doggie? Or you gonna bite?"
Will,
I am sorry if you are upset you didn't get in on the Holiday Blend deal. We ended up ordering a box of each of these and a box of Reserva #5's. All for just under $750.00 + shipping. So not a bad deal. I did only get four others to go in. So, I guess not as successful as you are.
It sure is nice that you guys take such an interest in me to follow me around.
Thank you all for continuing to prove my point. This is why denial is so delicious. I enjoy watching you implode trying to prove me wrong.
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