Divorce

[cigar no baka]

Damn I can feel your pain. I've never been divorced but many of my friends have and my sister has been divorced twice. Sounds like you are better off without her, even with reconciliation you'd be wondering if she would ever do it again.

Just stay as calm as you can, let her go screw up her own life and get on with your own. The pain and anger will waste away eventually until they are a small nub. The best solution is to finalize things, get on with your life and not be bitter about the way things worked out. Don't let what she has done to get you and change you, because you deserve better than that.

[guado]

You've got your ducks in a row. You know what you need to do.

I got your back 100% as do a whole ass load of friends who are faithful to the person that has NOT been lying to everyone. You're doing hella better than I ever would.

~Eddie

[tampacigargirl]

I have to agree, you're making the right decision. I wish I would have taken your stand and just moved forward. I moved to FL so to help take care of his mother, He stayed where he was because he was in the Army. Almost a year and everything is fine. We've found a house we both like, start the mortgage process, he starts trying to get stationed hear for his last 2 years before he retires. One morning I get up to give him our morning phone call (we talked 2x's a day weekdays and 3x a day weekends) and I just knew. He was acting weird. I called him that night and he told me it was over. Refused to talk about it. There was someone else. Since I came to FL with nothing but what would fit in a little Subaru I had to go back and get my stuff from him.

Here's where I went stupid. I took him back. All I got was more heartache and grief. And in the end lost all the possessions I had because when he was transfered to Maine he took everything except some junk he didn't want.

Grieve, take VERY good care of yourself, and move on. I'm glad you have alot support. I didn't really know anyone here, I hadn't been here very long and was working 2 jobs.

You have a lot of sympathy and support. Bad things happen, and we can only learn by it.

[cigarsarge]

Glad you stood your ground. Life is too short to be miserable. It seems that she fucked up...Not you. Keep that in mind.

Try not to lean on the booze too hard. It helps a little but it also clouds judgement...Something you will be needing.

You gave it all you had. Hold your head up. You deserve a happy life.

[WOXOF]

There is lots of great advice mentioned so far. You're on the right track. Grieve, but keep yourself busy and avoid doing the things that remind you of her. Just like your friend's dad said, "you'll look back and this will all be a bump in the road of life".