i would reccomend some type of a public speaking class or perhaps a cottillion course. I was not affected but could step back and see where you were coming from unitl you told those affected to go to hell if they didnt understand where you were coming from. I don't want to beat a dead horse but I would like to see you first retract that statement (jesus I sound like Nancy Pelosi) and perhaps follow up with what you said you will do and earn the respect form the elder members.
my 2 pesos

also it doesent sound like you were a) being banned or b) nor being accused of theft