You know, if you're in a financial crunch, then everyone should do their part. And, IMO if you're spending too much on cigars then you're in violation. BUT, if the budget is not too bad and I mean like not in bankruptcy, and she is still on your ass, then let me suggest, she is also investing a few clams on some luxury items. Dude, you don't have a chance at the sneaky game. Women have a natural ability that you will never match.
Good Luck