if you're not drinking in excess...and enjoy a cigar by yourself...why quit??......let's just say it doesn't work out with her....what would you do then??......if you want to sell your cigars...make an offer....i'd keep smoking....it's not like it's a crime....think about what you're going to do..."she doesn't like your smoking and drinking".....who died and made her the queen...man up,son...
if she wants you...she wants you the way she met you...does she think you're putty??...
father of Lord Calvin
hold on to them for at least a few more months.
"Only two things are infinite, the universe and human stupidity,
and I'm not sure about the former." -Albert Einstein
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If she really loves you,she wont care if you smoke.If she tries to change you,trust me,you better kick her to the curb.I had been married for 8 yrs when I began to smoke cigars.My wife never bitched a lick.Be yourself,dont try to act different to please her.You'll be better in the long run for it.
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Keep 'em. They improve with age.
Originally Posted by Shelby07
Keep 'em. They improve with age.
the cigars do....oft times,the women don't....
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LOL! Thanks for the clarification,
The Grim Reaper
Cigars? Yes please!
Keep 'em. They improve with age.
I was thinking the SAME thing. Keep the humi in check and even if it has been a few years those things are gonna kick ass!
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If she really loves you,she wont care if you smoke.If she tries to change you,trust me,you better kick her to the curb.I had been married for 8 yrs when I began to smoke cigars.My wife never bitched a lick.Be yourself,dont try to act different to please her.You'll be better in the long run for it.What man doesn't need a little time to himself every now and then? Keep the smokes! Buy yourself a good bottle of hooch and store them in a safe place. Then when the time comes and you have an hour or so to yourself enjoy all three ( time alone, cigar, and drink). If this lady turns out to be serious those may be the only three things you will have left to cherish. I think most of us married men will agree on this.
What these three said! I think anything else I have to say would just be repitive.
I was NOT a big smoker when I started dating my wife or a big drinker either... over the last 6 years I've changed my habits and so has she. The one thing that hasn't changed is as long as I'm happy she supports it as long as it's not something crazy or self destructive and even then on rare occassion she's turned a blind eye.
Seatbelts save lives, my best friend and I are alive because of them.
Nobody is ever gone as long as there is someone to remember them.
Yeah
I'm with LoudPipes, and everyone else of similar opinion. Keep the smokes. Decide for yourself if such a woman is right for you. I've found that some women will date a guy, intent on changing him. It usually doesn't(and shouldn't) work. You are who you are, decisions, choices and all.
The very existence of flame-throwers proves that some time, somewhere, someone said to themselves, "You know, I want to set those people over there on fire, but I'm just not close enough to get the job done." -unknown
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Distilled water is cheap. Maybe you'll want to celebrate an anniversary or birth (ahem) at some point and there you go... a cigar is handy that you don't have to re-buy. And it's aged to perfection.
--Gerald
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SOME Women?????
Christ, Man. It's prewired into them.
There's an old saying...
"Men marry women expecting them to stay the same and women marry men expecting them to change."
Run for the hills!!!
So Cal Newbie
Yeah, but it doesnt seem like a hard choice for me. Sometimes change is for good. I have time to decide what I want, but its not a decision just for her. Its also for me. I spend too much money on cigars as it is, and I need to be saving money and getting out of debt for stuff I need to do.
Ill let you all know what I decide.
2 Funky Chickens!
2.5 Pomegranates
call me Butters
Im hearing you there brother. I think when I dont have a morgtage, I will feel more comfortable spendig money on cigars. Thats 20 years away though. If you think its for the better, then thats your opinion, and good on you for coming to that. In saying that, you have paid for these already, so just put em away, and let them sit. I am cutting right back till my home loan is alot lower, but I sitll have them, and smoke em occasionally. As has been said before, you may need time alone (shit, I sure have) and its a perfect way to relax.
End of the day, its your smokes, your life, and your missus, so what you do is up to you. Good luck, and Happy Days!
Smokey the bear says:.....
Yeah
Yeah.
The very existence of flame-throwers proves that some time, somewhere, someone said to themselves, "You know, I want to set those people over there on fire, but I'm just not close enough to get the job done." -unknown
in my opinion,you were looking for all kinds of support saying.."yeah...get the babe...screw the cigars,yada,yada,yada.......you didn't get that here...from anyone....
it seems as if your mind is made up....get rid of the cigars...when she dumps you because of some little thing that irks her...come on back and tell us how bad it was.....as i stated earlier...it's time to man up...
Shhhhhhmoke and a pancake
Take it from someone with past experience. Don,t ever change from who you are into someone your not for a women. If you want to quit for yourself then fine but if you just met her and she is already trying to mold you into someone else it will just get worse. You will wake up one day and say to yourself " Self, what the fuck have I become and why? Be yourself and enjoy life. Good luck with whatever you decide.
Family, Friends and a good cigar. Oh and some fishing too!
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Bit of a change in those two post. As BPP already said... sounds like you're trying to justify it to yourself and us differently now.
Stopping smoking cigars is going to help you get out of debt... you must smoke a ton... then again I only light up maybe 4-6 times a month normally.
What do your friends (IRL not on the web) think of her? What do your friends think of you giving up booze/smokes? Whatever you decide to do is your call but I think most of us agree you're making the wrong decision.
Seatbelts save lives, my best friend and I are alive because of them.
Nobody is ever gone as long as there is someone to remember them.
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There is somebody out there who will take you just the way you are. Don't get wrapped up in the infatuation thing too much. That goes away and you're left with what you turned yourself into (notice that I didn't say what "she" turned you into. They are all choices you are going to make.) And don't be in too much of a hurry. Getting married ain't like buying a car. For those of us who have been through it, it is either going to be a lifetime partnership or a tremendous heartbreak if it goes wrong.
Step back, light up a cigar and take a drink or two. Let her reactions guide your decision.
Remember, the day is going to come when you are going to get tired of sacrificing the things you want just so you please her, and you will resent the whole situation.
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