We did it!

[cigar no baka]

Best if luck to you in your endeavor. Marriage is a constantly evolving relationship that requires constant care and attention, but even with that it can blow up in your face.

I know that with my wife, we've gone through hellish times and wonderful times and everything inbetween. But all in all, she is my partner, and we've learned we can live with each others bullshit without throttling one another in our sleep, so its a good marriage. And we do enjoy each others company most of the time. But vacations can be trying - a little absence is a good thing!

[Lazy1]

8-5-8,
Although I do not understand what's going on, I can't help but feel bad about another BOTL's Divorce. I can understand that you are happy today, but I think you guys need to dig deeper before you take this step. The easiest answer is not always the right one. Don't listen to me though only a coward gives advice. I hope this all works out for you and your wife.

[grand cru no 2]

I usually try to stay away from giving "relationship advice" but I felt the need to weigh in here. Seems we are around the same age or so and you are in a similar situation as I was a couple years ago. By that I mean young, in school and in a shaky marriage.

My ex-wife and I divorced for a number of reasons, but the reason we divorced at the time we did rather than later was to "save our relationship." The love was still there, but we were unhappy. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying it was the same. We had 2 small children and felt we had better just call it quits so we don't end up hating each other and making the children suffer because Mommy & Daddy can't stand each other. We wanted to maintain that closeness we had as friends before we were married.

The thought process seams logical enough and perhaps the intentions were good but it was a BAD decision. We gave up because it was the immediate solution to our problem. We talk alot now and it is clear that the love is still very much there but our relationship will never be the same. It changed instantly the moment we signed the divorce papers. It's like inside neither one of you can forgive the other (or yourselves) for giving up. We gave it a short go again after the divorce and it was just completely different (in a very bad way).

Now, I'm not saying that you guys belong together. You may very well be 2 very different people than you were when you married. That's the problem with marrying young, when you both "grow up" it is very possible to grow apart.

What I'm saying is, this is the biggest decision you have ever had to make, and maybe the biggest one you ever will. Be sure and give it all the attention you can before you make it. Maybe even try marriage counseling or something.

Anyway, sorry for the longgg post and best of luck to you brother.