Ban her and get back to cigars. I have some burning issues I need to discuss and not with a therapist from Iowa. Amanda says she wants to work with kids. Well I have for the last 21 years in Residential Treatment Centers. We call them emotionally disturbed. Your postings seem very familiar to me. The hurt feelings, retaliation, power struggle, violent fantasy the combination is self-destructive. Get help we all need it from time to time.