This Sucks

[reaganyouth84]

Don't go into debt man. That is a bad move starting out in a marriage. A friend of mine blew 13,000 dollars on a ring! That's right 13,000 bones! Needless to say I think he is an idiot. 13k might not be that big of a deal if you make mad money, but when you make 12 dollars an hour it's not such a great idea.

I have a couple of credit cards and have gone into debt. I'm taking this semester off from school just to work and pay them off...NOT COOL. I wouldn't recommend getting a credit card right now, and have to worry about paying off 3,000 dollars. I think that if she really cares about you and the relationship then she won't have a problem with you waiting it out a little longer.

Anyways, I hope everything works out alright for you.

-Mike

[cinda]

Here goes the mature female prospective. You both are pretty young and she most likely feels that she needs some type of socially excepted promise from you for all the time she put into you. It's harsh but girls get a lot of pressure too for all the wrong reasons. It is apart trickle down theory. After a few year of dating my now husband he bought me a pre-engagement ring that cost about $145.00. We went out and pick it out together and had a beautiful day. Honestly I did not think about getting married after that for another 10 years and it is the ring I cherish the most 22 years later. You can give her that promise in something that is less expensive but with more meaning. Maybe your mom or grandma might have a piece of jewelry that she can be given in the same fashion. Don't take out the credit card for the big diamond because the rest of the wedding will end up going on that card and you be in divorced before it is plaided down enough to charge your lawyer too it.

[Shagaroo]

Here goes the mature ....

I'm not sure that's allowed here cinda. Be careful, don't want you getting banned....

[WhiteWidow]

Maybe I should just take after my brother, ditch this girl and find one from the Czech Republic

[drew_goring]

Maybe I should just take after my brother, ditch this girl and find one from the Czech Republic

lol...mail order bride?

[Drake]

i hear they're more obedient

edit for spelling

[WhiteWidow]

lol...mail order bride?

I don't know if she was or not. All I know is she came from out of left field, and they got married like 3 months later. She's been around for about a year and half now, which I will admit impresses me.

[nhcigarfan]

Hey - I went through something very similar with my college girl friend. I didn't buy the ring, and I'm glad I didn't. Once we were out on our own, away from college, I realized that during college we were great for each other, after that, not so much. Haven't seen here in 10 years. Haven't missed her. I met my wife 9 years ago.

Just a thought, don't rush into it. You have a lot going on and there is no reason to add to it.

If you feel you need to give her something, I recommend following Cinda's advice.