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The first wedding in my family was when my sister got married. My mom and dad had been divorced for at least 10 years however my mom still very much hated him. She refused to sit in the same pew with him at the church because"God would not like it" I won't say anymore but I will always remember that year of my life one of craziest ever. I was the acting mother of bride, matron of honor and so much more .

Any cater knows how much a to charge per head, that's like saying Micky Dee's doesn't know how much a birthday party for 10 will cost. If your talking about the cater for your wedding I sit down with him or her now and ask to sign a contract with a total cost for his services and what your getting for that cost. My rehearsal dinner was just the wedding party at a local restaurant, really low key and intimate. I would say to your dad just give me what you feel comfortable giving me no worries My guess is when its all said and done he may add more to your card.

As for the mother in law I might send her flowers with a card saying something real positive, profound about two family's uniting and validating how happy you are to have found the perfect woman and thanking her in advance for making theses last few days before the wedding memories you will always cherish. I would send your mom something similar. All in all go back to basics;you do this for a living ...motivating people. Keep smiling and make sure the bride is happy