Originally Posted by cinda
My dad was and is a very hard worker. In his hay day he played as hard as he worked which left little time for this wife. She had her reasons for her hate. My dad a month before my sister's wedding basically said to me I will do anything you tell me to do to make this right. I explained to him he would have to sit in the pew behind mom in church, it was still up front just not with her and he said fine. I always ask him not to drink before the wedding ceremony and not to get so drunk that he forgets the nice thing is he doing for his kids right now. He agreed. My sister was stunning, my dad so handsome all of the brides maids were up at the alter. After dad hands her off to her husband I look over at the pew behind mom and its full! Mom has no one in her pew but her. My dad is kinda nervous and I know all he know that he gonna turn around and see mom and sit in back of her. When he see there no room for him he looks at my mother like please just push in and she holds on tight to the front of the pew and will not let him in. The church was packed so he had to go about ten rows back until he found a seat. My sister saw out of the conner of her eyes and I smiled at her trying to reassure her it was OK but inside my heart broke. I would say that was the talk of the reception. My mother who had empathy from all prior to that day really made a new name for herself. I did not say anything to her until a few months later when we were looking at the pictures. She made some comment like ya he tried to sit with me and I stood my ground. I explained to her why he tried to sit with her and she said I do not care and "God would not like it' I said well just remember mom that day will be remembered by god all of your family and your children as the day you were the bad one. From that time forward she snap out of it she even gives him a hug on holidays when we are together. Hopefully you have one that will take a back seat for you and suck it up. Try to sit them far apart for dinner. We invited one of my dads good friend and his wife and that kept him occupied. Give them each a responsibility that has nothing to do with each other. We told dad to keep an eye on the bar and people getting too drunk and we told mom told to keep an eye on weddning. cards. I just pray for you that once you begin having kids they can agree that their grand-kids are more important that the anger they keep fueling between them. I will say a prayer for you and you honey that all goes well.
Wow, thanks for sharing.
My parents were divorced for 12+ years before any of my siblings or I got married. I suppose it has gotten better over the years (now 22+ years) but it sadly has been accepted that they will not attend the same family functions. I suppose they have reasons, but it doesn't make sense to me still.
Believe Dat!
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