Wedding Planning Blues

[AshLvr]

Although I regret the embarrassment Cinda's family suffered during her mothers'
"inappropriate" behaviour, there is more than some of you may understand. As your
mother, I too have bitter feelings towards my daughters bio-dad. Fortunately, I was
the one who insisted the girls have their "father" walk them down the aisle. Also lady
enough to walk back down the aisle with the jerk and the grooms' mother (also a
divorcee').

You may not understand, but there are sometimes things that are said and done in
ending a marriage that are unforgettable. These usually result in great pain. Do not
simply try to brush away your mothers' feelings. Until you walk in her shoes, you have
no right to criticize. Everyone is entitled to their own feelings. Grow up, stop being so
selfish as to think that everyone should tip-toe around you and your own precious feelings.
Perhaps if more grown children could experience the same feeling their thoughts on the
subject would be much different. Be understanding. Truly, your parents hope that you
never have to suffer through a divorce.

[ashauler]

Although I regret the embarrassment Cinda's family suffered during her mothers'
"inappropriate" behaviour, there is more than some of you may understand. As your
mother, I too have bitter feelings towards my daughters bio-dad. Fortunately, I was
the one who insisted the girls have their "father" walk them down the aisle. Also lady
enough to walk back down the aisle with the jerk and the grooms' mother (also a
divorcee').

You may not understand, but there are sometimes things that are said and done in
ending a marriage that are unforgettable. These usually result in great pain. Do not
simply try to brush away your mothers' feelings. Until you walk in her shoes, you have
no right to criticize. Everyone is entitled to their own feelings. Grow up, stop being so
selfish as to think that everyone should tip-toe around you and your own precious feelings.
Perhaps if more grown children could experience the same feeling their thoughts on the
subject would be much different. Be understanding. Truly, your parents hope that you
never have to suffer through a divorce.

To whom is this directed? I don't see anyone who has posted in this thread as acting selfish or immature......rather just the opposite.

[cinda]

...hummmm I am thinking you have way too much untapped personal baggage regarding whatever you were trying to say, for me to comment

[Cabaiguan Juan]

Yeah, I think I will have a ahnd on the parent thing at this point. 3 weeks away and the card thing worked wonders. Looks like I'm on the home stretch.

[cinda]

Yeah, I think I will have a ahnd on the parent thing at this point. 3 weeks away and the card thing worked wonders. Looks like I'm on the home stretch.

Great!!!!!!

[Cabaiguan Juan]

A buddy of mine was married Friday night in a vineyard near charlottesville and Heather and I attended it. It was an amazing experience. It sort of put a lot of stuff into perspective. Seeing the level of excitement on my friend and his bride really brought me back to what weddings are all about. The whole event was fantastic, the venue was impecibly put together, the parents of both TJ and (his) Heather were beaming and TJ/Heather were on cloud 9. It made me forget about all of the hassel and disagreements one (specificly me) can have during the planning stages and showed me what the end product can be. In a way, TJ's wedding was almost like like someone sent me one of those cards that i sent last weekend. There wedding helped motivate, focus and remind me on why I'm doing this in the first place. Well, 3 weeks from today and I'll be in TJ's shoes, thank God!

[mrtr33]

My wife and I did the same thing about a month and a half before our wedding. We went to another couple's wedding - and didn't so much enjoy it as take notes, to see if they were doing anything cooler at their wedding, to rip-off or incorporate into our wedding. It worked well, we got a better understanding of timing and flow of events, but it was just funny going to a wedding with a different perspective than we normally would.

[mace85]

I feel your pain man. I am getting married on the 28th of March and we are just a few weeks away. Her parents are divorced. Her dad cheated on her mother for years with the woman who is now his 3rd wife. To make matters more complicated she is a raging alcoholic with so many psych issues she can't be trusted not to talk about her vibrating panties. You think I am kidding... But I am not. Seriously... And of course she has to be there.


If I could go back in time, we would both choose Vegas.

[The Korean]

Although I regret the embarrassment Cinda's family suffered during her mothers'
"inappropriate" behaviour, there is more than some of you may understand. As your
mother, I too have bitter feelings towards my daughters bio-dad. Fortunately, I was
the one who insisted the girls have their "father" walk them down the aisle. Also lady
enough to walk back down the aisle with the jerk and the grooms' mother (also a
divorcee').

You may not understand, but there are sometimes things that are said and done in
ending a marriage that are unforgettable. These usually result in great pain. Do not
simply try to brush away your mothers' feelings. Until you walk in her shoes, you have
no right to criticize. Everyone is entitled to their own feelings. Grow up, stop being so
selfish as to think that everyone should tip-toe around you and your own precious feelings.
Perhaps if more grown children could experience the same feeling their thoughts on the
subject would be much different. Be understanding. Truly, your parents hope that you
never have to suffer through a divorce.

WOW!!