Wedding Planning Blues

[cinda]

Thanks Cinda. My dad has basically forgiven my mom and moved on, but my mom still has not let go of her issues with my dad. Heather (my bride) and I have already discussed what to do about this and while not exact to your situation, its going to be similar. I think my moms biggest hurdle is seeing my dad for the first time in 10-15 years and the unexpected anxiety that is going to come with it. To cope with that I have invited one of her closest friends and will ask some of my good friends who are invited to help me out in keeping her occupied on the wedding and not my Dad. We'll see what happens! I think Heather's family may have a similar challenge too. I'm just going to have to wait 30 days to see what happens.

As for this weekend, Heather is begrudgingly heading down to Charlottesville again to do 'wedding planning stuff', but I'm going to send her down with a hand written note from myself thanking her parents for all the work and effort and planning that they have put into this. If nothing else that will make the weekend start off on a good note.

That sounds like a good plan!

[Cabaiguan Juan]

That sounds like a good plan!

The plan paid off pretty well!

[mrtr33]

If I may be so bold as to offer more advice, as I just got done with my wedding a few weeks ago:

Eat before you get married. This may be difficult to do, but you won't be doing much eating at your own wedding. And make sure you get your best man or the maid of honor to pack you a lunch, as you'll get hungry later on that evening after the reception! I think I sat down for about 10 minutes throughout the whole thing. I got there early, to help out, but wasn't allowed to. I basically just kind of stood in a corner, and waited for people to come and talk to me. Everyone was so worried I was going to somehow accidentally see the bride before the wedding. I realize that it's tradition, but I thought it was stupid. Here, I'm marrying my best friend, and I can't see her all day until the moment she walks up the aisle? It just seems kinda dumb.

We tried to talk to everyone, but it was hard. Theoretically, while the wedding should be all about YOU TWO, it realistically isn't. People say that you don't just marry the woman, you marry the family, so (at least some) of it is about your families getting along as well.

My 2 cents. Good luck, and congrats!